Was at a nephew's engagement ceremony Saturday last (May 5, 2012). With my husband (as always) we have to be at the meeting point earlier then scheduled. "Let us do the waiting, and not let others be waiting for us". To him being late for an appointment is a crime. Lucky for us the point was by the Kelana Jaya PKNS Club and a soccer match was on-going. So we have the game to while our time while waiting for the other family members to arrive.
With the full family members assembled, we made our way to the host's home. We have to park quite a distance away as the place was already jam packed with relatives, friends and other guests. We walked in the searing sun bearing the engagement gifts. Hope nothing melts.
We were cordially received by the host and directed to the sitting area and the gifts laid out. Then the negotiation starts with appointed representatives from both sides. The host has a nephew as the spokesperson while we have a family friend. I wouldn't call it a negotiation really as most issues have been pre-discussed and agreed upon. What matters was both sides have agreed that they be officially engaged on the day with the nephew's mom menyarung cincin on the bride-to-be. The wedding is set to be in a year's time, sometimes in March of 2013. Quite a period to be engaged by today's standard.
Then it was the engagement lunch. More of a feast to me as food was laid out much to everybody's satisfaction. We said our thanks to the host and bade our goodbyes soon after.
This is the simplest engagement ceremony I have ever attended, yet some questions beget answers. Since most of the agreement have been under cloak, I feel that it would be much simpler to have it Western style, with a gift box bearing the engagement ring and the groom-to-be asking, "Will you marry me?" End of business and making it a real private affair between the two of them as they wished it be.
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